This Strategy For Getting My Toddler to Listen Has Helped Me Parent Without Yelling

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My son turned three when I became pregnant with our second child, and toddlerhood suddenly threw a curve ball that I had no idea how to catch. It seemed like the farther along I got in my pregnancy, the harder it was to get him to cooperate. The mornings and evenings when my husband was working and I was parenting solo were especially brutal. I'd run the gamut of parenting offense: pleading, bribing, threatening — and on my worse days — yelling.

In my desperation, I ordered How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber and Julie King ($8) and it suggested a tool I had never thought to use: play. You might be thinking… how exactly do you play your way out of a tooth brushing stand off? And what if you're not in a playful mood? Isn't that a lot of exhausting creative work? And shouldn't my child learn how to do things because I ask him to? I had all of these thoughts, but let me explain what happened when I tried it.

It was, indeed, a tooth brush stand off that started the experiment. My toddler refused to open his mouth after I slathered his toothbrush with strawberry toothpaste and enthusiastically offered him a taste. "No! I don't want to brush my teeth." He said, folding his arms. My mind flashed to the shark documentary we had watched bits and pieces of over the weekend. "Hey!" I said, looking at his mouth and pointing curiously. "It looks like you're growing a shark tooth in there. Let me see!"

This piqued his interest. His eyes immediately lit up as he opened his mouth for me to take a peek. "Yes, you are! It's in the back. Let me touch it with the toothbrush to see if it's sharp," I said. He began to giggle a little with his mouth open. I began working the toothbrush around his molars, making my way through the rest of his mouth as I rattled off random shark stats and continued to comment on the tooth. It worked!

In fact, it worked so well that I continued to use the tactic throughout our getting-out-of-the-house routine. That morning, I was the voice for his empty shoes who were hungry for feet, I was a fellow Pterodactyl flying to the car with him to escape the fRead More – Source